If you’re anything like most of here at This Naked Mind, one of the reasons you drank was because navigating your feelings can get messy. When you drink enough, you stop feeling anything – good or bad – so you start living life indifferent and numb. So when you stop drinking, you’re forced to feel all the things you’d been suppressing before. That is scary and often overwhelming.
Navigating Your Feelings When You Stop Drinking
First off, whatever you’re feeling right now – it is normal. You’re probably feeling it all. An emotional mess from one moment to the next. Happy, sad, anxious, angry, apathetic, depressed – it seems like every emotion under the sun comes out each and every day in the beginning. That’s normal and due to a combination of things.
On one level, it is your brain trying to regulate again. Drinking takes a heavy toll on our brain chemistry and really messes with the levels of dopamine and other chemicals in the brain. So while it is readjusting and searching to find what levels are normal for you, you’re going to be on a bit of an emotional roller coaster.
What Is Still Missing
Secondly, this is all new. You haven’t allowed yourself to really feel and be present in your emotions in a long time. Your coping mechanisms for happiness, sadness, joy, stress, anxiety, etc. just aren’t developed yet. So yes, navigating your emotions before you’ve fully developed the tools to deal with them can be overwhelming. It’s like needing a hammer and only having a screwdriver in your toolbox!
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Don’t Fight It
No matter how overwhelming these feelings seem to be, do not fight them or try to numb them. Instead, be brave and allow yourself to feel them. Sit in the emotions and try to observe how they make you feel physically and emotionally. How do they make you behave? How do you feel about that? Why were you numbing those feelings before?
By getting curious and observing what you’re feeling and why you can appreciate your feelings and begin developing the tools you need to cope with them.
The next step is to begin developing some coping mechanisms around your triggers and feelings. For many of us, that means learning to set boundaries. We often drink because certain people and the way they treat us trigger our feelings. Numbing ourselves seems to be easier than dealing with them and the emotions they dredge up. Practice some self-love and dictate what your boundaries are. You won’t allow that person to treat you a certain way and if they do you or they will leave. They do not have the power to make you do something that steals your joy along with your sadness.
Even with boundaries you’ll still feel triggered at times. Decide what tools you need in your box – exercise, therapy, reading time, journaling, meditation, etc.
It’s Not A Sprint
Navigating your feelings when you stop drinking is not a sprint. It is a marathon that will extend throughout your entire life. As humans, we are on a neverending journey learning to work through our emotions, love ourselves, and grow. The great thing is that when you’re alcohol free, you’re present, aware, and in charge of the journey during the entire trip!